#24 – How I Triumphed Over Borderline Personality Disorder

I recently rewrote my story of struggling with and overcoming the borderline diagnosis. The account below describes the beatings I endured as a child, periods of extreme hopelessness, encounters with stigmatizing psychiatrists, an argument that conceptualizing BPD as a life-long disorder can be harmful, analysis of how I deconstructed the borderline label, a very brief account of my therapy, and some of my proudest achievements in work and love.

Although it’s brief for a life story, I hope you find this account encouraging. I’m not better or fundamentally different than anyone else who gets labeled BPD, and given sufficient support anyone with “borderline” symptoms can do very well.

How I Triumphed Over Borderline Personality Disorder

Welcome to my story of recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). This story will illustrate how I went from fearing this dreaded diagnosis, to being hopeful about it, to finally no longer believing in its validity.

Here are two early encounters with “mental illness” that show how I grew to fear psychiatric labels:

Vignette #1 – When I was eighteen, my mother and I sought professional help after years of emotional abuse at the hands of my father.

In our first session, the therapist said, “It sounds to me like your father has a personality disorder…You know, there are normal people, there are those who are a little bit outside our societal norms, and then there are people who are really beyond the pale. In this last group are the ones we call ‘personality disordered’. These people are very difficult to help, and many therapists consider them ‘untreatable’.”

Being unfamiliar with “personality disorders”, my mom and I didn’t know what to make of this. But despite my father’s abuse, I disliked this therapist’s cavalier labeling of someone he had never met.

Vignette #2 – At age twenty, I became suicidal and had to be involuntarily committed to a psychiatric hospital. The following example comes from a group therapy session inside the hospital:

“Mood disorders are biologically-based mental illnesses,” the psychiatrist announced authoritatively, surveying the fifteen young adults in front of him. “But while these disorders might be biological, it doesn’t mean you can’t manage them effectively.”

My mind reacted explosively: How the hell could you possibly know this? What evidence do you have? I desperately wanted to shout at him. But I remained silent, slouching backward in my chair.

These snapshots encapsulate the hopeless viewpoint with which psychiatry assaulted me. It would take everything I had to break free from the resulting fear and despair.

How I Became “Borderline” – A Very Brief History

As of this writing, I’m twenty-nine years old. I grew up in a family of four on the east coast of the United States. My father worked a demanding financial-sector job, and my mother taught school part-time while caring for my younger sister and me. Our childhood was marked by isolation, emotional deprivation, and physical abuse. Starting when I was six, my father regularly beat me for small infractions such as arguing with my sister, outside of which he remained emotionally distant. He often sat on our living room couch staring into space for hours at a time.

Two memories of the abuse stand out. On one occasion, when I was around ten, my father, who was about 6’3 and 225 pounds, chased me to my room, broke my locked bedroom door off its hinges, and attacked me with fists to my face. On another, he picked me up and threw me ten feet across a room onto the sharp edge of a table. He would usually follow these incidents by telling me that he loved me, but would then return to his catatonic-like state on the couch. My mother tried to protect me, but was too afraid and insecure to be of much help. Child services were never contacted.

By my late teens, I felt depressed, scared, and helpless. Despite doing well in school – I was a good student who enjoyed playing tennis and violin with school groups – I had no close friends, and didn’t know how to talk to girls. The growing pressure to leave home and function as an adult felt incredibly threatening. At the same time, my father’s mental health was deteriorating further – he had to be hospitalized multiple times for manic episodes and suicidal depression.

As our family life broke down, things felt increasingly hopeless. I felt furious at my parents, and suffered intense mood swings of rage, emptiness, depression, and terror. I wanted to get help, but couldn’t trust anyone enough to open up about what I was feeling.

Eventually I became suicidal, and after concocting a plan to kill myself, which almost succeeded, I was involuntarily hospitalized. This episode led to the diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder, given to me by a psychiatrist at the hospital. I spent two weeks at the hospital in a shocked, barely coherent state, getting little help from superficial group therapy and heavy medications. The only good thing was that I stopped being actively suicidal.

The First Phase – BPD: A Life Sentence?

In the year after my hospitalization, I extensively researched my “illness”. Most readers will be familiar with the core “borderline” traits:  they include black and white thinking (“splitting”), self-damaging behaviors, impulsivity, fear of abandonment, and unstable interpersonal relationships.

Through interactions with psychiatrists, internet forums, and pop psychology books, I found out the following “facts” about Borderline Personality Disorder:

  • BPD is a life-long mental illness; it can be managed but not cured.
  • Due to their reputation for being manipulative and demanding, most “borderlines” are avoided by therapists.
  • Twin studies show that 50% or more of vulnerability for BPD is transmitted through genes.
  • Brain imaging reveals that the brains of borderlines differ significantly from the brains of “normals.”
  • Borderlines suffer from a constitutional deficit that prevents them from regulating their emotions normally.

As a young person, I didn’t know how to evaluate these data. If a person had “Ph.D” or “M.D.” by their name, I tended to believe what they said. When I was already vulnerable, these ideas heightened the terror. I became possessed by the fear of being a “hopeless borderline”, of having a life-long mental illness that was impossible to cure. I was not only facing formidable challenges in reality – like my father’s abuse and a lack of social skills – but was further impeded by the intense anxiety and hopelessness surrounding the label “BPD”.

Questioning The Pessimism

By the time I was twenty-one, my parents had divorced and I’d chosen to live with my mother. For two years after my hospitalization, I was unable to work or attend college. Much of my time was spent at home, severely depressed, isolated, and brooding about being a “hopeless borderline.”

At this time, I was seeing a psychiatrist once a week for fifty minutes a session. Over a two-year period, he prescribed me twelve different antidepressant and antianxiety medications. We kept trying different pills, with nothing helping much. If I had known then what I know now – that many psychiatric medications are little more effective than placebos – I would never have taken so many.

To his credit, this psychiatrist tried to “do therapy” with me. Unfortunately, I was in such a traumatized state that I could not take in his empathy nor understand my family history. However, I gradually became aware that someone wanted to help. I noticed that although my psychiatrist knew I had been labeled borderline at the hospital, he never used this label on me.

This experience with the kind psychiatrist built up a sliver of hope. I realized that I felt a little better after talking to him, and wondered if that feeling could become stronger. Sometimes I would have the thought, “Maybe there is really nothing wrong with me.” Part of me wanted to fight, to become alive, to feel like a real person. When I had the daily thoughts about borderlines being doomed, a voice inside my mind started saying, “They are lying to you!” I wanted to find out what this meant.

Over time, I felt increasingly angry about the way borderlines were stigmatized. How could borderlines be so bad? Had none of them ever been “cured”? What if the things I’d read about borderlines were untrue, or the result of therapists who didn’t know how to treat them?

The Second Phase – “Borderlines Can Do Well”

With these doubts surfacing, I began to research BPD in greater depth. Up to that point, I had received most of my information from the hospital staff and internet forums where people spoke negatively about “their borderlines.”

I decided to go on Amazon and look for new information. The books that influenced me the most were older psychoanalytic texts. Their authors included Gerald Adler (Borderline Psychopathology and Its Treatment), Jeffrey Seinfeld (The Bad Object), James Masterson (e.g. The Search for the Real Self), and Harold Searles (My Work With Borderline Patients).

As I read about borderlines in long-term therapy, I was shocked to realize that many borderlines had fully recovered. The case studies showed people starting out hopeless and nonfunctional, but becoming able to work productively and enjoy relationships. It was crystal clear from the narratives that these “borderlines” were coming to trust others, working through their pain, and coming alive. I finally had some hope. Given enough time and support, former borderlines could improve greatly and even be “cured”.

I remember thinking, “Wow, a lot of what I’ve been told about BPD is completely wrong; this is not a hopeless condition! If other borderlines can recover, why can’t I do it?”

This burst of hope inspired me to seek help. I pursued psychodynamic therapy, interviewing several therapists and finding a kind psychologist who had worked with many trauma survivors. I went to see her twice a week for several years.

Gradually, painstakingly, I made progress. Through reading accounts of borderlines recovering and discussing the fears around diagnosis with my therapist, my anxiety and hopelessness lessened. I formed a really good bond with this therapist, coming to trust someone deeply for the first time. Being “reparented” and taking in her love was the most important step in my becoming well for the first time (I would call it “recovery”, but I had never been well before).

For the first time ever I had periods of feeling calm. I felt like Michael Valentine Smith, the Martian man from Stranger in a Strange Land who learns what it is to be human. Becoming able to trust other people, feeling safe in my own skin, appreciating the sun and the flowers and the trees, feeling that I was going to survive, it was all strange, incredible, and bittersweet.

Using online groups like Meetup, I tentatively started to seek out people my age. Feeling more capable, I earned a professional qualification and began teaching sports to young children. The more time I spent around energetic kids, the harder it was to remain pessimistic. Being still a child at heart, I found a talent for relating to children on their level.

The Third Phase: “My Way of Thinking about BPD Doesn’t Make Sense”

In difficult times, I continued to worry about the pessimists who said full recovery from BPD was impossible. I was still thinking of things in terms of “borderlines act like this, borderlines don’t act like that, borderlines can do well, borderlines can’t do well, etc.” The label still felt real.

But with life experience, I began to doubt BPD. I wondered if BPD – the disorder, not the symptoms – really existed at all. The following questions became increasingly problematic:

  • How can therapists reliably determine the degree of a given symptom that warrants its inclusion in a BPD diagnosis? For example, who can say when someone’s relationships are unstable enough, or when a person feels empty enough, to cross the threshold and suddenly become a “borderline” symptom? The subjective, descriptive nature of BPD symptoms seemed like a major weakness.
  • Person A could have only symptoms 1 through 5 from the DSM IV, and Person B could have only symptoms 5 through 9. The people might even be very different in how they express the one common symptom. Do persons A and B really have the same “disorder”?
  • Did researchers have strong evidence that BPD was genetically transmitted, or that brain differences between borderlines and “normal” were caused by biology?
  • Why does BPD have 9 symptoms? Why not 4, or 23, or 87? How was BPD’s existence as a 9-symptom “illness” first inferred?
    (I realize that BPD has magically “changed” in the new DSM V. But in slightly varied forms, all of these criticisms would apply just as much to the “new BPD”; these examples represent the time when the DSM-IV was current).

As far as I was concerned, there were no satisfying answers to these questions.

The Fourth Phase: “I Don’t Need BPD Anymore”

Something felt fishy about the whole psychiatric labeling system. I suspected that BPD, along with the other labels, represented a house of cards that would collapse under close examination. More research was in order.

This time, I discovered a group of writers including Stuark Kirk (e.g. Making Us Crazy), Paula Caplan (They Say You’re Crazy), Jay Joseph (The Gene Illusion), John Read (Models of Madness), Barry Duncan (The Heroic Client), Mary Boyle (Schizophrenia: A Scientific Delusion?), and Richard Bentall (Madness Explained). From their writing and through observing myself, I came to the following conclusions:

  • While all the borderline symptoms are real in different degrees and varieties, BPD itself is not a reliable or valid syndrome. In other words, there is no evidence that the symptoms labeled “BPD” occur together in people more frequently than would be expected based on chance alone;
  • No one can reliably draw a line for any of the borderline symptoms beyond which one is “borderline” and before which one is “normal.” In other words, the subjective, descriptive nature of borderline symptoms fatally undermines their reliability;
  • Twin studies do nothing to prove that “BPD” is transmitted through the genes, this is partly related to the non-validity of BPD and partly to methodological problems with twin studies;
  • There is no evidence that a constitutional deficit in regulating emotions exists in “borderlines”;
  • Because BPD is invalid and unreliable, biological researchers studying “it” are doomed to roam a circular labyrinth. They will continue to generate false hypotheses and misleading conclusions based on the illusory imposition of a “borderline” cluster of symptoms onto random mixes of severely distressed people.
  • Psychiatrists will continue clinging to the existence of “BPD” and other personality disorders. If they were to admit that BPD et al. are unscientific fabrications, their status as “experts” would be undermined.

It will be recalled that my young self had feared BPD as an incurable, genetically-based “illness”. By the time I was twenty-five, my thinking had evolved radically. If the placeholder “BPD” was a nonexistent ghost, then many of these ideas ceased to have meaning. It didn’t make sense anymore to worry about getting better from “BPD.” One cannot become free from a condition that is not diagnostically valid; one cannot be cured of something that cannot be reliably identified; genes cannot cause a fictitious disorder; medication and therapy cannot be compared for the treatment of a speculative phenomenon, and so on.

This is how I think about “Borderline Personality Disorder” now – as a ghost, a fiction, a figment of psychiatrists’ imaginations. In asserting this, I am never saying people’s painful experiences are not real. They absolutely are. But affirming people’s pain is very different from arguing that Borderline Personality Disorder exists as a distinct “illness”.

Further Emotional Growth

As I increasingly separated from the label “borderline”, further emotional growth took place. Based on my work teaching children, I started my own business, which involved advertising, accounting, hiring staff, and communications. I moved into my own house, living independently for the first time, while continuing to socialize more. I was happy a lot of the time.

In my late twenties, I had my first real relationship with a woman. She was an attractive college girl; we had several interests in common and got along well. After the hopelessness stemming from my abuse and the BPD label, loving another person had seemed like an impossible dream. I was glad to be proved wrong – loving her was better than I had ever imagined! This relationship was a first in many ways, teaching me a lot about emotional and physical intimacy.

I realized how, during the long years dominated by fear, despair, and anger, I had missed out on the best things in life. I realized that believing in “Borderline Personality Disorder” had only held me back.

A New Way of Thinking

If BPD didn’t exist, how could I understand my past “borderline” symptoms? The black and white thinking, emptiness, despair, fear, and rage had been very real. To understand them without the BPD label, I needed a new model of reality. I started by picturing distressing thoughts and feelings existing along a continuum of severity.

In my new thinking, each symptom was no longer “borderline” or “not borderline”; rather, my feelings and thoughts were the result of my family experience and everything that came from it. In particular, I needed to understand how my father’s physical abuse and my mother’s lack of emotional availability had contributed to my problems. In this way my past started to hold meaning (whereas, calling myself “borderline” didn’t really explain anything).

I modeled some of my thinking after Lawrence Hedges, a California-based psychologist. He rejects the DSM labels in favor of a system called “Listening Perspectives”. In this model, a person uses different ways of relating to other people at different points in time. Hedges describes these levels as “organizing (a term to replace ‘psychotic’)”, “symbiotic (to replace borderline)”, “self-other (for narcissistic)”, and “independence (for neurotic-healthy)”.

These terms do not denote distinct “disorders”, but rather fluid ways of relating which fade into one another along a continuum, which evolve based on environmental input, and which always involve others. A person will operate in different parts of this continuum at different times and with different people. In this model, one would never “have” a borderline or psychotic “disorder”; the words “organizing” and “symbiotic” would have no meaning outside of a specific relational context. The focus is on understanding and changing restrictive ways of relating, not on labeling or managing “illness”.

I probably lost some people here! This way of thinking is not proven science, but it works for me, and it’s far better than believing in the static, hopeless “Borderline Personality Disorder.” I mostly don’t even think about BPD now, because it’s not worth my time. I’m more interested in real things!

Helping Others Break Free

Two years ago, I revisited some internet forums about BPD that I had first seen as a teenager. To my surprise, these forums were alive and well; more people than ever were discussing such weighty topics as:

  • What’s the best way to manage “your borderline”?
  • You know you’re a borderline when…. (fill in the blank)
  • Can I have borderline, schizoid, and antisocial PDs at once?
  • Are borderlines more sexual than the average person?
  • Why won’t my family take my BPD seriously?
  • Do borderlines have a conscience?
  • Are borderlines more sensitive than the average person?
  • If BPD is biologically based, why do people blame us for our behavior?
  • How do you fill your spare time when you have BPD?

If these weren’t so sad, they would be funny (well, some of them are darkly humorous, but let’s not go there…). Anyway, hundreds of people were discussing how to “live with BPD”, “manage this illness”, “learn to accept my diagnosis”, and other twisted medical-model jargon. The level of distortion inherent in these questions is so massive that I will not even begin to discuss them; the reader can infer my opinion from the preceding paragraphs. It’s tragic that already-traumatized people are fed these lies about BPD being an “illness” they’ll have for life; for many it will only make the path to wellness harder in the long run.

After seeing these forums, I started a website telling my story of hope and critiquing the medical model of BPD. This project has allowed me to learn from other people so diagnosed. Talking with them has only reinforced my conviction that people labeled “borderline” don’t have the same “illness”. Rather, they are unique individuals, most of whom have had very difficult lives. Almost all of them want to understand their problems and get better; they are basically good people with good hearts. I would never want to label any of them “borderline.” My messages to them are,

1) Full recovery and healing from so-called “borderline” symptoms is absolutely possible, and
2) You don’t have to understand yourself through the invalid label “BPD”.

For some reason, people like these ideas a lot better than the prospect of managing a life-long “personality disorder”.

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Coda

I will finish this article with a scene the movie Inception:

“You mustn’t be afraid to dream a little bigger, darling.” My goal is for more people to be able to say that to the idea that they can’t overcome the borderline label. The “enemies” in this movie could symbolize my fears of having BPD for life and never becoming truly well.  To be able to dream bigger, I had to explode these distortions with more positive experiences and with better data, as symbolized by Tom Hardy’s big gun!

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18 thoughts on “#24 – How I Triumphed Over Borderline Personality Disorder

  1. Ellen

    I found this so encouraging, thank you. I also like the philosophy of ‘listening perspectives’ – I hadn’t heard of it before. I think that going with a medical model has been such a wrong path for ‘mental injuries’. Psychological difficulties just aren’t the same as bodily illnesses, IMO, for the most part, and treating them as if they were is depressing – they become ‘conditions’ that need to be ‘managed’ and never cured. I too hate it when people talk about their emotions like medical events, unconnected to themselves and their history. So many people online do that. I guess they find it a good thing, but to me, it’s disowning your own story and your own agency. Well – I’m preaching to the choir, obviously, so I’ll stop. Just wanted to let you know I sympathize greatly with these views.

    Do you think the same thing holds for other difficulties as for BPD? That is, that we can recover fully? I wonder. I have a dissociative disorder, and I wonder if I’ll ever be able to heal it fully. However, that doesn’t mean I think something is physically wrong with my brain. I am so thankful I didn’t go down that medical highway to nowhere.

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    1. bpdtransformation Post author

      Hi Ellen, thanks for your comment. Did you read some of Hedges’ writing? I see you found out about the model of listening perspectives. It is a positive theory.
      Maybe you saw I posted the link to Hedges’ free book which describes his reconceptualization of BPD as a symbiotic listening perspective:
      http://freepsychotherapybooks.org/component/content/article/13-contents/82-relational-interventions

      Yes definitely, I think of other emotional problems, including so-called schizophrenia, bipolar, and dissociative conditions as problems of relationships / adaptation to life which are in principle fully curable and healable given sufficient support.
      If you email me (see About page), I have a pdf copy of a study by Colin Ross where he treated 36 severely dissociative patients (many of them were also diagnosed as schizophrenic or multiple personlity), and most of them had excellent outcomes, and a number of them were “cured” in the sense of being well-integrated and having no remaining symptoms. I can email it to you if you want. Colin Ross’ book The Trauma Model is another good read.
      Ross’ study on dissociative disorders was in his book Schizophrenia: Innovations in Diagnosis and Treatment, but I got the electronic copy of it by emailing him; I think only the summary is available online. It’s called Two Year Followup of Inpatients with Dissociative Identity Disorder.
      Also, there are several great case studies of people with dissociative disorders who integrated and healed fully in Ira Steinman’s book Treating the Untreatable. Check it out!

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      1. Ellen

        Wow, thanks for all the references. I will check these out. I haven’t found that much out there on actually healing dissociation, as opposed to coping with it, and I hadn’t heard of these books. I’m hoping to find something with a psychodynamic perspective, mainly because that’s what my T does, so I could possibly use the reading to help with therapy. I find knowledge helpful – especially the useful, more hopeful kind that helps you envision a way through. Luckily, I am a reader so this is great for me.

        Hope your day is good!

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      2. bpdtransformation Post author

        Good, am glad you will check these out. All the references are psychodynamic. That’s my favorite approach and the kind of therapy I did.
        Also I found an early version of Ross’ paper online, here it is –
        http://ajp.psychiatryonline.org/doi/pdfplus/10.1176/ajp.154.6.832
        If you check out the changes in scale ratings over two years, these dissociative identity disorder patients really improved a bunch!
        This is a different paper than the one I have, which includes another section on some patients who were treated for 5 years in psychodynamic therapy. As you would guess, they did even better and many of them reached “integration”, which means a state of well-being and self-continuity/one identity most of the time.

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      3. Ellen

        Thank you. I think it will take me longer than five years, at this rate. But at least my life makes more sense. I’ve downloaded the free book and started it, and so far, I like it. Thanks for all your help.

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  2. WillowTree

    I love that you talk about how these “illnesses” are ways of relating to other people, at specific times. I think for most people, accepting BPD is about having a way to talk about what they are feeling – for myself I don’t know how to explain the things happening inside and BPD was helpful with learning how to talk about my emotions. However, it also made things all the more hopeless, like you said. I feel privileged that my nature hasn’t allowed me to sit back and accept this without question. I wonder though, how does one deal with their difficult emotions or past trauma? After all, it is hard to work through emotional difficulties alone or have meaningful, healthy relationships when you find it difficult to trust.
    -Willow

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  3. Jody

    You don’t say much about how others saw you. Have you ever wondered if all this question about BPD is because perhaps you had complex PTSD? Wouldn’t that create the same kind of feelings inside you? The BPDs I have known had to have other people around in order to transfer their pain, which to the nonBPD manifests as blame, guilt, accusations, twisting of facts, etc. I suspect I have many of the same feelings inside as, for example, my sister who I suspect has BPD. But I’m not prone to seeing others as blameworthy. I believe I create my own problems. That has not been my experience with BPDs I’ve known. Perhaps inside, they feel like they create their own problems, but outside, they want you to believe you’re responsible. I know I don’t do that to people. For whatever reason, being raised in the same home, I got almost all the same stuff. But I didn’t become borderline and she seems to have.

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    1. bpdtransformation Post author

      Well, I don’t believe that either BPD or complex PTSD are valid or distinct categories, so it’s difficult for me to answer this question well. I would bet that people with similar kinds of emotional problems are often labeled as BPD only, or complex PTSD only, or both at different times, by different psychiatric “experts”. My article was intended to describe how I suffered from the symptoms that are typically labeled “borderline” and how I worked to overcome them.
      But I can say a couple things. I was diagnosed as BPD by a psychiatrist when I was around 18, so that’s why I identified with it, even if I now think it’s a BS wastebasket term. My first therapist – who did have a lot of difficulty working with me, because I often got confrontational with her – she did say that I had borderline ways of relating, although she didn’t like to use that label often.
      Yeah I understand what you are saying about blaming other people being common in “borderlines”. The problem with thinking that that’s how BPD people are, is that again, BPD is not a reliable or valid condition. Many people labeled with that word (BPD) will blame people in the way you describe, some will not, and all degrees in between. And, they will change over time, in the degree to which they blame others, because people can be BPD and then not be BPD, or be non-BPD and then BPD, and so on… There are no simple answers unfortunately.
      And, it is good that you take responsibility for problems you see in your life! It’s much easier to handle things that way than to project them onto others. I know that from experience too.

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  4. Sandra Steingard

    I found this site from your comments at 1BOM. Great work! I plan to send others your way.
    PS I appreciated how you used your wisdom to suggest in a calm and thoughtful way how a certain (psychiatrist) commenter on that other site might be more effective in his responses.

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  5. steveturtell

    I found this very helpful and want to share some of the writers that I’ve used to achieve some of the same results, especially Mark Epstein, a Freudian/Buddhist psychoanalyst who writes about the effect his meditation practice (which is one of my main tools for psychological health as well) has had on his therapeutic practice. I’ve read several of his books over again and find something valuable each time, especially the first two: Thoughts Without a Thinker, and Going to Pieces Without Falling Apart. Along the same lines are writers like Pema Chodron–When Things Fall Apart, and Sakyong Mipham–Turning the Mind Into an Ally.

    Thanks for creating a great site!

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      1. bpdtransformation Post author

        Hi, did I answer this in another comment? If not please let me know more about what you mean… I’m not sure if I understand. I tried to describe some of the factors that helped me, e.g. therapy, family, understanding that BPD is meaningless, in this and other articles. Let me now if there’s something else you want to hear about.

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  6. Anonymous

    I stumbled upon BPD in a forum and realised I exhibit many of the symptoms described. It led me to your blog and I am beginning to understand the recent break-up I had, and that my thoughts and actions probably stressed my partner out a lot. You have made me feel a lot calmer, inspired and determined to change. Thank you so much for sharing your experience.

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