How I Recovered

The pages below describe how I recovered from the BPD diagnosis given to me at the age of 18. More accurately they describe how, after a history of physical abuse as a child, I was able to mature to become non-borderline and emotionally healthy.

#2: How Did I Recover from Borderline Personality Disorder?
– After once suffering from all 9 BPD symptoms, this essay describes the people, psychotherapy, and ways of thinking that helped me build a fulfilling, meaningful life:

#3: The Tragic Borderline Experience
– One of my early articles, describing the powerful feelings of loss related to being unable to work effectively or enjoy loving relationships when one is functioning in a “borderline” way.

#6 – Life After Borderline Personality Disorder – My Vacation
– I was having a really good vacation to England a couple of years ago, and decided to write how life has gotten so much better since I stopped identifying with and feeling “borderline.”

#11: From Borderline to Healthy: The Evolution of My Needs
– This article describes how my interpersonal needs evolved, starting at the emotional level of a needy, desperate child and gradually progressing through more mature and healthy forms of relationship.

#21 – My Nightmare of Psychiatric Hospitalization
– This article recounts one of the most difficult episodes of my life; the period when I was suicidal, got hospitalized and received a BPD diagnosis.

#24: How I Triumphed Over Borderline Personality Disorder
– Here I go into detail about my family background, my hospitalization, the difficult years when I struggled with much rage, terror and despair, how I realized that BPD was not a valid concept, and how I made progress in work and love:

4 thoughts on “How I Recovered

  1. janet sierzant

    Hi…I wrote to you about my book Borderline, The Illusion of Insanity last summer and you were kind enough to write back. Unfortunately, I lost your email. My book is finished and I was hoping you might read it and give me a review. I’ve cited your website as a footnotes and in endnotes. My book is a case study of the women in my family who I believe are affected by Borderline Personality Disorder. If you are interested, please let me know. And if you still have my email message, please reply to it… your responses had so much valuable information and I lost it.

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    1. bpdtransformation Post author

      Janet I’m at bpdtransformation (at) gmail (dot) com – unfortunately with my work being very difficult I don’t have time to read a full book at the moment. I could still perhaps give a good recommendation of you as a writer based on what I know.


  2. Sharon Pereida

    Hello, I am reading your very helpful articles as a result of a post on a BPD group forum and helps that I belong to.
    I met and married a man with undiagnosed BPD almost two years ago. I couldn’t figure out how one person could be so different from one moment to the next. More than a year later, I have finally figured out that he has BPD. However he doesn’t speak of any abuse during childhood by his mother or father? Do you think he is covering up? I am in this relationship for the long term and want to help him. I don’t think he trusts me (yet) and continue to serve in the role of therapist. How long did it take you to recover? I like your approach and explainations of symptoms/results of “objects”. I can provide unconditional love for this man however need to protect myself and maintain relationships with my loving family (he hates these). So… any advice? Thank you, Sharon


    1. bpdtransformation Post author

      Hi Sharon, thank you for your comment. I can’t really comment on an individual situation effectively when I don’t knwo a person in real life. I just encourage you to get insight by looking at a range of possible causal factors that might cause someone’s stress – this is not limited to paternal or maternal abuse, which might or might not be part of the picture. People can have “borderline” level problems for many reasons – other possible factors include lack of love and support from family members or nonfamily, being stressed in various ways such as economically, culturally or ethnically, severe financial stresses, traumas of various kinds in early and young adulthood such as war, very stressful urban environments, etc… or just not having the right trusting attunement in the right way for an individual to parents and friends in childhood. There is always more than one cause of severe distress / splitting, and it is always potentially modifiable or transformable in my view… I would say it took me a few years to get much better, but it varies between individuals and people can start improving right away.



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