Here are some pages where I wrote about what helped me become free of BPD, and offer what I hope will be helpful ideas for recovering from trauma, neglect and abuse:
#5: What To Do if You Are Diagnosed With BPD
– Describes how important it is to understand that full recovery after a BPD diagnosis is possible, how to enlist family and friends as supporters, and where to find effective therapy:
#7: Addiction Recovery, 12 Step Groups, and BPD
– Discusses how addictive behaviors are often the result of or a compensation for trauma/neglect, and how 12-step groups are a crucial resource for many people in overcoming addictions:
#12: Cracking the Borderline Code
– This article conceptualizes BPD as a dysfunctional “code” or schema in which “bad” relationships keep getting taken in and replayed to the exclusion of “good” loving relationships. It argues that returning to the normative developmental process is crucial to recovery (seeking out loving relationships, rejecting isolation and bad relationships).
#14: How Risk-Taking Promotes Recovery from BPD
– This article discusses how taking risks and facing fears helps feel stronger, bolder, and happier, allowing us to move beyond a history of trauma and disappointment.
#16: Lao Tzu, Sun Tzu, and BPD
– A philosophical look at how Eastern Chinese philosophy, from both a poetic-peaceful writer (Lao Tzu) and a Macchiavellian war-focused writer, can inspire us to recover from trauma.